I completely agree, but I approach these changes with a lot more hope than you seem to.

Federalism is returning, and that was the original design of the constitution. The states are sovereign and that is where the true democracy can be found. They're smaller, they're local, and it is much easier to be heard.

As long as we can maintain the system it will be great. Power back to the states, free trade and travel between the states, and a common defense and foreign policy. Washington becomes much less important.

You lose the power to influence what is going on in other states, which you shouldn't want anyway, and you gain much more power in your own. If you find your state's rules to be intolerable you are free to move to a state with better laws.

Hopefully it will make everyone a lot more comfortable and reduce tensions.

On the specific matter of abortion, I think it is reasonable that states choose for themselves how they want to handle abortion. The one thing they must not be allowed to do is to prohibit travel to other states to get an abortion. States do not own their citizens. This principle should apply in other matters as well, of course.

Recently I saw some Californian cities talking about taxing people who were leaving the state (mostly to get away from high taxes) because they had enjoyed expensive services while they lived in California and therefore owed part of the debt.

Wow.